Ask Me About Polyamory
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Ask me any questions you have about polyamory - whether it's similar to swinging (something a coworker has) to how to schedule to what's involved in not cheating to how I keep up my energy. I'm also here to contest the usual stereotypes, such as this:
" Monogamy is the difficult-but-ethical choice, and that we're only doing poly because mono was too hard for us."
Actually, polyamory is a way of life that is not for everyone because of how much constant communication and love it involves. Not everyone can keep up multiple relationships and give enough love (attention, constant encouragement. constant feedback, making time for this person). It's also much healthier than monogamous relationships for some people due to the amount of attention they receive from multiple partners instead of just one - you don't have to put all your needs onto one person and overwhelm them. For example, I have many mental problems and breakdowns, and I know for a fact that if I had only one partner, they would probably have broken up with me for THEIR mental health. But since I have multiple people that I know love me romantically and would not mind me messily crying to them, I have people with different lives and schedules that I can ask for help. This might sound like I make friends into romantic relationships, but I do understand the difference between friends and partners, and that is a slight but important distinction.
I should probably make an FAQ at some point from how often my coworkers ask me about my love life, and figured since I tend to get asked the same questions constantly, I might as well put myself out there since I'm used to answering questions.
Note that I'm asking you to ask me. This doesn't mean that every polyamorous person wants to be your "Ok, Google". I'm an activist and hate misinformation, but I also have the energy to field the constant questions. Additionally, this is online - I probably would not be so receptive to questions if we were face to face, solely because I probably would not be in a headspace to be able to give you every single detail.
Poly people are just living their life. That doesn't mean every single relationship is healthy, that doesn't mean we're perfect, and that certainly doesn't mean we fall away from stereotypes every single time (they exist for a reason.) But that does mean we're more than this label, and we're more than the stereotypes.
So hi. How are ya, what do you wanna know?
Training & Qualifications
Been in an open relationship since I was 16 and want to marry the person I'm in an open relationship with. We're still waiting because their parents are coming around to the idea. Meanwhile, I've been in healthy breakups and healthy relationships and learned many things about the community of polyamory.
Hate to sound like a hippie, but it's all about the love. God that sounds cheesy.
Also I'm Muslim so I have religious background! (I joke, I joke. For one, that's another stereotype. Second off, I've only been Muslim for a year, so no I don't have religious background.)
Availability & Preferences
Message me anytime, if you want to have an ongoing questionnaire we can exchange emails.